Elephants are Heavy
I am really thrilled with how closely our session matched my notes for what I wanted to talk about.
Prep
Things I prepped to talk about. We talked about them.
Frustration:
- things we got wrong
- getting over why had talk so make progress.
An analogy: I am like an onion with 100 layers. We are at about layer 25. My partner is somewhere in the low 80s.
Things
Expressing emotions without feeling badly.
It’s easier to be quiet and hurt than vocal.
Would you rather…
Would you rather keep the pain of keeping it inside or go through the pain of dealing with it and then live out the rest of your days with some peace?
- That sounds amazing!
- How do I know the pain will be worth it? You don’t. EEEEEEEEP. OK!
Where do we start?
How do I start telling you things?
Can I just cut to level 99? No. I really don’t think I can. What if we go up in 10s?
Body/Self
Take up less space.
A very harsh thing I say to myself with too much frequency. His reaction to this was strong. Yeah, it’s an intense thing to say to myself.
I find myself saying “yeah, I know” quite a bit. LOL.
Assertiveness
I feel bad when I tell people how I feel. I want to tell them. It’s the most important thing in the world.
Homework: Next time, tell him something that he does that I find annoying/frustrating or would want him to do otherwise.
I mentioned that I had two weeks to amp myself up for the homework. He was like “no, amp yourself down“. Hmm. I like that!
I might make a list of the things I want to talk with him about and just go through the list.