Celebrate yourself anyway

celebration, challenge, forgiveness, healing, patience, relief, shame

We started to explore why I am so opposed to the concept of celebrating or congratulating myself.

Perspective shift: you don’t have to continually top yourself

I mentioned how I was improving my running times but I was afraid:

How will I keep topping myself?

Wow, did he help save me from going down a rabbit hole.

You don’t have to keep topping yourself. Set a range and aim to be within it.

Healing in layers

We chatted about Teal Swan’s “Healing Happens in Layers” video. I mentioned that I found the concepts in that video helpful for how I think about our conversations:

  • deal with whatever is coming up right now
  • deal with whatever comes up after that

Being in therapy has been an exercise in patience. There are so many things I want to work through but that will come in time. On a related note: each session does not have to be hard.

Past Self

I have an intense hatred of my past self, whether it’s 30 minutes past or a decade. I see past me as stupid, fat, ugly and weak. Without going into too much detail, I should learn to forgive sixteen year-old me.

Homework

What would you do to celebrate yourself if you did not judge yourself?